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not to sound like an advertisement, but i love dr.bronner's soap for washing dishes and for laundry especially. it leaves our clothes feeling soft w/out any fabric softener, and smelling good. we use it in our apt. size washer and don't need a lot of it. never had any problems with it; no need for extra rinsing, no sensitivities or horrible static like from other detergents.

abc123, since this post is called how to exercise an x from your abode, i assume also your life, i thought i'd stick to the subject and contribute from my own recent experience...with some humor.
but, yes, not all x's are the same just like not all relationships are the same.
if you feel inspired by love letters and poetry that reminds you of the good things and makes your life fuller, then great :-) i thought that too, hence i kept love letters to remind me that there were very 'good' things about it even tho the break up was extreme and fated.
however years later this person in his own way discredited these good things upon re-entering my life and i felt like a real idiot for believing in fantasy (he lied to me) and almost getting sucked back into it!

sometimes there is worthwhile reason to keep something, like a shoe that fits, or the ring from your grandma that you really love but don't wear...and keep it because you loved her.
you will know what is good for you by having a good feeling around these objects, other times exorcism is due, like the title states :-)

as for me, i'm at a place in my life where 'less is more'..as in 'more room for more new experiences' to enter into my life! cheers! :-D

never lock the mementos and love letters in a box for future...future what? future ghosts emerging from pandora's box opened a decade later and haunting you? eeek! this recently happened to me. i gracefully forgot only to open it and torture myself later! and you will be as the memories flood back in, especially with stuff unresolved, yet the person is not the same one you have these memories with, and nothing can be done about time that has passed. it gets very confusing.

so, if the good stuff is 'really' there at the core btw the two of you, you will reconcile someday and there will not be a need to remember, you will create new experiences with the past behind you. who doesn't like a clean slate? who needs a guy (or gal) coming out of the woodwork years later and telling you 'remember? we were in looooove?' why oh why tell me this now?

have a little purifying fire ceremony and invite close friends over so they too can bring their x's stuff. or donate it, or recycle it (make sure you shred it first) there are many creative ways to get rid of things and it feels liberating.
DON'T drag that box of stuff through every freaking move...unless you are a masochist... or like baggage! ;-)

wow! elegant, warm and comfortable indeed!

ohhhh sooo good! thanks for posting this and reminding me to make a pot. i crave hot tasty drinks during this cold/wet season upon us...and i'm trying to stay away from too much coffee. not only is this a great substitute for it, but the ingredients in it are also superb for the digestion and making the body warm. thank youuuuuu!

i once remember coming back from a trip to the grand canyon, one that did not involve any creature comforts including shampoo. on my arrival back home i went to a beauty store, no names mentioned, and the woman asked me what i 'did to my hair' because it looked so amazing!
i replied that i have not washed it for a week. she in turn looked at me like i was some kind of freak and i left the store feeling uneasy and turned off. this made me realize some things about the whole beauty industry.

all my life i could never stand the chemical smell of shampoo - they try to mask it but it just stands out more. so for the last two decades i've used the no sls shampoos and whatever most 'natural' products i can get but i find they leave a residue and make my hair limp with a weird texture. i've done the vinegar rinse for years to get rid of that texture and have used lavender and rosemary oils to help the scalp.

today was the first time i've ever tried the baking soda and i love it!!! i already don't shampoo that much and have a less oily scalp so this was easy to do. i'm definitely gonna keep this up. thank you!
i'm just curious how this method will perform after a chlorinated swim, as i do swim a couple x a week.

bravo!!! what a stylish and livable space! i especially love the smartly positioned dog food bowls in the kitchen nook. i was thinking same for our kitchen since i hate having crunchy bits embedded in my feet :-P

i love your garden, it looks so serene and romantic!

your porch looks refreshing and modern! love the elegant yet relaxed color scheme and the details that give your space a finished look.

...and i think i know something about that awful 'green' you've mentioned ;-)