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The blog post:

According to yet another report by the Centers for Disease Control, about half of all couples that move in together end up separating within five years (thus supporting our parents' reasoning of, "Why buy the cow when the milk's so cheap?").

Try looking at the success rate of all couples who DON'T move in together after 5 years. Relationships fail for many reasons not just cows or milk or whatever.

I am young (24) and have lived with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. It's been great, but maybe that's because we have a good relationship w/ minimal drama.

Positives:
-I love how he is as messy as I am!
-He has a car, but I don't, and he occasionally chauffers me around.
-If we lived separately, we couldn't have rescued a relative's unwanted dog. Of course dogs are A LOT of work, so we divide the tasks. He walks the dog in the mornings, while I walk the dog after work because I get off work earlier.

Negatives:
- It's awkward when I have to remind him to pay me rent EACH month.
- Unfortunately, I learned that I am a control freak when it comes to cooking, but don't have the energy to cook every night. We don't have the budget to eat out all the time, and I was getting resentful of having 100% the cookies duties, so I taught him. First we went to the grocery store - he had no knowledge of seasonings or different cuts of meats, etc. Now he goes on his own, unprompted! Then we walked through cooking 3-4 "core" dishes - easy stuff like pasta, steaks, pizzas. Now the last two steps involve me getting out of his way. I have to go to the gym when he cooks otherwise I'll hover and critique too much. And lastly, I have to happily enjoy his cooking "mistakes" because I know he's fallible and that he's eaten plenty of my dishes that were burnt or undercooked. Plus I don't want to discourage him from cooking in any way.