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All of these comments seem to be from annoyed hosts of parties. I'll admit to being one of those people that is really bad about RSVPing until the last minute. It's not laziness, or busyness, it's true that RSVPing to an evite is super fast and easy. My problem is that I truly have trouble planning as far ahead as a lot of the invites request. For a casual party, there are a lot of reasons I might not end up going 3 weeks from now- maybe I'm super tired that night, or stuck at work, or not feeling good. Maybe some people would consider those lame excuses and say that if I commit to an event, I should suck it up and go. But would you really want me to come to your party if I'm not going to be a fun guest just to eat the food you bought? In my experience, people find it a lot more annoying to get no shows from people who RSVP'd than for someone to RSVP late, so I feel that it's better for me to not respond unless I really am sure I can make it.

I should point out that I'm talking about casual parties among friends here. Most people in my social circle expect a good percent of their invitees not to respond and still show up, and they just plan accordingly. Usually those that do go would bring some food or alcohol, so the amount of refreshments ends up matching the number of guests pretty well. And it honestly doesn't bother me when people don't RSVP to my invitations. I usually don't even bother requesting it. But for something like a wedding where I know the head count is really important, I would absolutely RSVP.