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When friendships are in transition (more bluntly, you need some) it's important to not stop doing things because you're afraid to do them alone. Give yourself a pep talk and go to a co-workers party, run a 5K or volunteer your time - solo. I have made more connections in less time by attending something alone than by keeping close proximity with a girlfriend. When at a party alone you either sink or swim, wallow by the snack table or ask the person next to you how they know the host..
Figure out what you are interested in and get involved. The best way to meet people with similar interests is to do what you are interested in. Take a group sailing class. Get involved at your local church. Volunteer for beach or park clean up or Meals on Wheels. Read the local paper events section and go to something that sounds fun.
Now that you're at your chosen event, in all your independent glory, make sure to be friendly and smile at people when you make eye contact. Don't dodge their glances for fear they'll be aghast at the social rebel who dared show up alone. Introduce yourself, you don't have much to lose in this situation. Take with you my motto and simple, universal truth: everyone wants to be liked and wants to be wanted around. Stop worrying that you look like an overly eager friendster and take interest in others around you. In the words of Dale Carnegie, "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you."