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Thank you all so much for your help! I really appreciate it :)

We have a ribbon driveway and it is one of my favorite things about my yard. Our garage is connected at the rear of our house, so the driveway would be SUCH a mass of concrete without the grass to break it up. We live in Utah and get TONS of snow in the winter and have never had trouble with shoveling. I'm a pretty lousy driver, too, and back up over the grass at least once a week but it always seems to recover :)

I'm about to have my 3rd baby on Friday and I could care less if anyone brings me food or gifts or comes and cleans my house or anything like that. I'm not entitled to anyone's help or charity. I think everyone DOES deserve respect from visitors, though--just because a visitor has good intentions doesn't mean they are being respectful. When I had my first baby, I was horribly sick (103 fever, took me 2 weeks to recover), I'd had a horrible labor and couldn't walk and I was stressed about dealing with a new baby for the first time. My brother-in-law (with his 7 children) and my sister-in-law (with her 5 children) both stopped by my house unannounced the day I got home from the hospital AT THE SAME TIME. I know they were just trying to support us, but making me gather chairs for 16 guests (most of which were screaming children) and entertain them while feeling like crap was one of the worst experiences of my life. Guests need to be more cognizant about what the parents need--if you're really trying to support them, you'll put a bit more thought into what would really be helpful and supportive.

I've been bothered ever since I read this last night by people judging this family for the size of their home. My house is a bit bigger than theirs, and I bought it when my mom passed away so my family (4 brothers and sisters, grandparents, nieces and nephews) could still get together for dinners, holidays and parties. Most of the homes in my city have a bunch of square footage lost in unfinished basements--you really need to buy a house this big or bigger in order to have enough liveable space for a big family. How can anyone judge a total stranger for why they bought/rent a certain size home? It's one of the most annoying characteristics of some posters here.