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Sometimes I wonder weather people read whole articles or comprehend them before posting.
What if it wasn't called a "shower"?
I tend to agree with most of the comments that express (strong) distaste for the throwing of a breakup party for ones'self and registering for gifts. That would be outrageous.... But hold the vitriol for a minute. Under other circumstances: my buddy gets the boot for instance, maybe things went south partially due to his losing his job. Would all the negativity exist if I called a few (maybe ten or fewer) friends and we hooked him up with a few little things? I think that is the idea here. Just like the weddings, showers, etc that you all seem to resent so much, they're rooted in people helping their friends and their most loved people build a life. Tradition tends to make some beautiful gestures look compensatory but they aren't. Never have I had to attend any of these events. There seems to be a recurring agreement that we'd be happy to buy a few drinks for this friend - what, like at a bar? A couple of $8 beers or $12 martinis could just as easily have been something your friend actually Needs. This isn't necessary for the friend who has everything - obviously.
I guess I just feel that this, like every other thing people do, is something that can be done in a beautiful way or could be done in a terrible, tacky way. And this should probably not become the norm for every breakup. But it certainly has a place in the world I want to live in.