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It's a real stretch to include a piece about pornography under the auspices of stretching "the boundaries of how we cover the life of our home." But that's not what chaps my hide the most.

What drives me nuts is that the writer approaches the subject from such a morally relativistic standpoint. Porn is a short-circuiting of intimacy. It progressively skews perceptions of what intimacy and sex are supposed to be. It distorts the image of what men and women "ought to look like." And it slowly but surely shapes the viewer's arousal template to where they can only be aroused by pornography or some facet of the pornographic situations they view. The author warns against obsessing about being the sole object of arousal but fails to hit on the dangers of fetishism I've just outlined.

We are kidding ourselves if we think that we can isolate sexual intimacy from emotional intimacy in a relationship which is what pornography viewers are in effect trying to do.

If I could favorite it again, I would.