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A school friend of mine is now visiting for a week.

During the last 4 days she managed to ask me to do her laundry, spread her stuff all over the house and invite another friend to spend the night. I'm even happy the other girl is here since now they both left to explore the town and I have my house empty again. I work from home so it's very distracting to have someone here and talking to me ALL the time. I already took time off to take her to see places but I do have other responsibilities - I am not on a vacation.

She did decide to cook yesterday.. despite that she knew I already had food prepared for last night (!!). So not only is my meal getting "un fresh" in the fridge she also created a lot of work by cooking for me and my husband.

First she tried to send me shopping for her ingredients (!!!).

Then (while i was "visibly" working) she kept asking questions:
what should i make?
how should i make it?
what do you mean you don't have a skillet? how am i suppose to make it without one?
you run out of aluminum foil?
what degree do you put the oven on?
do you think it's ready?
should i use fresh or dry basil?
should the tomatoes be cut in cubes or slices ... grrrr

She started cooking late. It was a work day so normally we eat at 6, the meal was ready for 8 PM and the wine was really not necessary when you are working the next day.

In the end I was stuck with a lot of dirty dishes and feeling guilty for feeling angry when she was doing her best.

If you are cooking for your host you should plan, shop, and prepare it yourself. Don't make it an activity for everyone in the house unless they have the time to participate and express enthusiasm to do it.

P.S. The whole experience sucked — the food turned out great, it was yummy.

Bitter host