lorilj3's Profile

I know of many older couples who do this, but I've always wondered how it affected the "closeness" factor, wondering if it is a choice made after they grow apart or something, regardless of snoring, etc. I accept and totally appreciate that many types of relationships find success with varying levels of space, but for me personally I feel that it would interfere with intimacy--both emotional and physical. I find that if one of is away for a night for some reason, we're always eager to climb into our full-size (very cozy) bed together and wrap around one another. The physical closeness is tremendously comforting, even though we rarely fall asleep like that (I like space when I sleep, but love knowing he's right next to me.) That said, we've had nights where circumstances (perhaps an excessive cough with a cold or simple restlessness) has forced one of us to retreat to the guest room. It certainly helps us get sleep under those conditions, but does nothing for that sense of closeness that we get from sharing a bed. But hey, different strokes for different folks!