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I think it's definitely a placebo effect. I do not mean any offense to your beliefs, though.

Try painting the place something completely opposite of what you have or wallpapering. Just do something very different. Rearrange the furniture, or better yet get rid of it and donate it somewhere and bring in new or reupholstered finds from the thrift store. Get rid of everything that reminds you of the negativity, even if it means clearing the whole space.

I realize as the poster jeanmarie stated, that this was a significant part of your life and you can't pretend it doesn't exist or wasn't part of your life, but that's not what I'm suggesting.

A lot of times when a relationship has ended we feel like the one who left the home, goes on to newer and better things, making us feel that what we have and who we are isn't enough. Changing our home or our appearance causes a lot of people to feel as if they have a chance to go on to "newer and better" things as well. Losing weight, a new hairstyle, making your home brand new to yourself through a makeover can make you feel worthwhile, like there is something intriguing about yourself, yet to be discovered. This can be empowering.

And no, I'm not suggesting our self-esteem comes from our outer appearance or home appearance, but it can make us feel like we have one up on the one who left the home.

Re: Sockpuppet. No, Sockpuppet was very rude. The tone and attitude came across much more clearly than any correction of grammar. It was very condescending. I'm sure the author knew the difference. It was simple over cite. An occasional over cite should not be the subject of such impudence.