Kathy from Apt.1208's Profile

My boyfriend is super opinionated and it drives me crazy. All the endless hours I spent planning and thinking and browsing and fantasizing about the ways to decorate our apartment, he spends playing rugby and watching football and browsing the Jeep online stores. Yet, when it comes time to make a decor decision, he wants his opinion to have as much weight as mine - i don't like that!! I've noticed two trends that drive me NUTS. (1) He really likes his parents' house, and yeah its very nice, but nice for a typical suburban well-kept house owned by 50-somethings - it isn't me at all. I don't want to replicate the houses and decor we grew up with. Yet he is constantly suggesting things on the premise, "my parents do this and it looks good." We argued about painting our living and dining room and i wanted grey. He insisted on this awful bright yellow that his parents have in their basement. It was only when his parents came and saw my grey paint swatches and his dad says "that's like the grey in the kitchen" that he got on board with grey. (2) he has this knee jerk reaction to nix everything when I initially throw it out there as an idea...even though when i've either worn him down or just done something without his pre approval, he always likes the end product. AHH!

I say all of this light-hearted of course....i am happy he cares, and I am learning just do things without getting "permission" every step of the way. After all, ive definitely made my decor decisions gender neutral and not "girly" once we moved in together 2 years ago - I DO factor him in, and also, if it's something that might be a bigger investment that we're both paying for, like a piece of furniture, I definitely want us to agree on it.

I have a work, personal, school, shopping/spam, and an old personal email. My personal is a gmail and my spam is a gmail - you can set it so that you can be signed on to more than one gmail account at one on your computer and switch back and forth between them. The one i use for shopping/spam is good for keeping all the emails i sometimes ignore in one place - so the more important stuff doesnt get lost int he shuffle. It's not complicating your life to have so many if you have a smartphone. In the old days I would have to make sure i signed on to each one ever so often or else they would get cancelled due to inactivity - now, I have all accessible in one spot on my phone. It works out nicely!

I think it's a good and practical idea. I am inclined to seek out larger rooms, but I have lived in four apartments of my own. I've noticed in each one, whether it's an extra bedroom, my bedroom, the living room, kitchen, etc., I tend to gravitate toward and spend the most time in the smallest room, which I have inevitably carefully arranged without too much clutter. I just moved into my fourth apartment in 8 years 2 months ago, and it just hit me that i did this! I think as long as there is a place for everything, humans are quite comfortable in smaller spaces. At least I am, apparently!

I think she's cute! and i don't care about tattoos. No big deal. She is absurdly thin, though honestly when i was 7 and playing with Barbie's and nothing remotely resembling womanly proportions, skinny fat or anywhere in between, i didn't pay attention to or notice how skinny barbie was. By the time that fact sunk in I was too old to ever be influenced by my dolls.