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Update!! They got an apartment!!! And yes the games continue. Now she is running around the house in a panic because she has to pack now. And there just isn't enough time. And to make matters worse for her my wife and I informed her that we will be moving too so the entire house must be emptied of her belongings! And my son is wising up to her. Refuses to let her see what he has in his Checking account. That really pissed her off! She yelled at me and accused me of pressuring my son to do things my way. It is kinda funny because I haven't talked to my son about his Checking Account in months. Horrible House Guests Flag this comment	2/18/11 3:53 PM
Up date! The News was delivered on schedule as planned. She went nuts. She threatened to take the Grandchild and leave the state. Thankfully we had anticipated that and stopped her legally. She has 90 days to move out. She started to text everyone she knew to tell them that we (the Grandparents) threw her and our Grandchild out of the house. She finallly stopped doing that when someone pointed out to her that it really made her look stupid when they found out it was 90 day notice. They also imformed her that the state only gives 30 days notice show she really had no reason to complain. Tip one: Give her notice verbally. Tip Two: follow through with the verbal notice with official eviction papers from the Civil Deputy. (Which is what we will be doing 30 days prior to the 90 days notice ending.) Tip Three: If Grandchildren are involved in it and she threatens to take the children and leave the state with no mailing address go the court house and file emergency custody to prevent her from leaving the state before custody can be decided by the courts. These are important tips. You must be firm and must be prepared for a fight. You also must be prepared to move other people out of the house during the notice period or be prepared to file for EPO (Emergency Protective Order) against the unwanted house guest if she starts to destroy property or threatens bodily harm. Be firm and cold and stand by your originial dates. Show her who is in control of your house. Taking control back from her is hard but it must be done! Do not buy any excuses and do not under any circumstances allow her to "Guilt" you into more time! After each 30 day period is up remind her how much time she has left!! Don't allow her to let any grass grow under her feet!! More updates to follow! Horrible House Guests Flag this comment	1/4/11 4:21 PM
I'm calling this post "Cougars, the other side of the Story." And the reason I'm commenting like this is because this cougar applies to the Unwanted House Guest horror stories currently going around the net. In May of 2009 my son of 20 years of age brings a co-worker home with him. She is 39 at the time. I find out later she was just released from jail from Work Release for failure to pay child support and need a place to stay for a couple of days. Three days later the hell began to over take my home and my life and my health. It all started with her panicking about needing mail to come to our address. I allowed it. I was naive back then. I'm no longer naive. Fast forward to August of that year. My son informs me that she is pregnant. Knowing that I am very pro-life show she knew we would pressure her to keep the baby. She was right of course. Over the course of next nine months she controlled every aspect of our life. My wife and feel like we are prisoners in our own home. She has managed to corral our Little Jack Russell Terrier to one room where as before she has had the run of the whole house. She refuses to pay rent. She provided our Grandchild and that should be enough. Yes she actually said that. She will also control the movement of my son. She refuses to allow him to go to his grandmother, (my mother in law) Why? Well because my mother in law has this woman's number. And this woman works overtime to make sure that my son doesn't spend anytime with her. Well the nightmare is coming to an end. On the Second of January of 2011 my wife and I will be giving her a 30 days notice to move out followed by a eviction notice from the local sheriff department. Some final tips. 1. only allow a guest to stay in your house less then 48 hours 2. Never never never and I cannot stress this enough!!! Never allow them to use your address to receive mail. Once they succeed then they have established your home as their place of residency. 3. When the 48 hours is up throw them out. Don't take any other excuse just throw them out!!! 4. Never allow them to use children or Grandchildren as a means to guilt you into letting them stay. 5. Set rules such as when and if they can use laundry facilities and cable and internet. Remember Don't feel guilty about setting limits or cutting off services!! They do not pay for it so they only use it if you say so. It is your money and believe me they are not ashamed to use it if they feel they can. And if you like me allow them to stay they begin to feel entitled to it. SET LIMITS! Don't make the same mistakes I did. I have a kind heart!! A really kind heart. But this experience has hardened it. Never again! Horrible House Guests Flag this comment	12/14/10 3:53 PM