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I'm gonna have to disagree with the "you can reupholster or refinish anything." Unless you're trash picking something or getting it at Goodwill for $20, reupholstering anything = CHA-CHING. Or maybe really the moral of the story is that "budget" is an extremely relative term.

Decorating on a Budget: 20 Tips from the Pros
6/3/14 02:16 PM

"5 reasons your bathroom should have one of those rugs that fit around the toilet."

5 Reasons You Should Be Using Plastic Furniture Covers Right Now
4/1/14 12:14 PM

Oh man, I'd never leave.

From Wasted Space to Family Chill Out Zone Good Questions Revisited
2/25/14 06:13 PM

So brilliant! I have a few of these kicking around, I think this might have inspired me to actually hang them up.

10 Ways To Use IKEA's Bekvam Spice Racks All Over the House
2/17/14 02:13 PM

For me a night stand has to provide storage that's easy to get to without having to remove everything that's sitting on said night table, so I don't understand the steamer trunk or the whole "pile up a bunch of books or magazines" thing. Not only does that seem incredibly precarious, but what happens when you feel like reading one of them? I mean, I'm good at Jenga, but not THAT good.

10 Unusual Things to Use as a Nightstand
2/14/14 12:19 PM

Don't get me wrong, I think this looks great. But does anyone else ever feel like the "after" photos on ApartmentTherapy are sometimes cheating because the photography is so much better?

Before & After: Laundry Nook Refresh Emerson Grey Designs
1/20/14 11:11 AM

I know it's tough to find a place to put them, but one of my biggest pet peeves is TVs over the fireplace. There should be a nice work of art over the fireplace, not electronics. Also, not optimal for viewing at all.

Storing the Boob Tube: 10 TV Solutions From Our House Tours
1/15/14 12:11 PM

Yup, guilty of almost all of it. I have an entire craft room in my house devoted to (messily) storing all of the supplies that I never use. I have a project in mind, gather/buy like 3/4 of what I need, and give up before making that one last trip to AC Moore to get the rest.

The problem is that most of my clutter exists in that weird netherworld of being too good to throw out and not good enough to donate.

Although I did just dump a big bag of clothes in the Salvation Army box yesterday. *pats self on back*

12 (Okay 13) More Items You Probably Own Too Many Of
1/7/14 01:00 PM

Also this topic always makes me think of
this episode of The Simpsons, a show I believe can brilliantly illustrate almost any of life's situations.

The Battle of the Sexes Continues: Does It All Come Down to The Dishes?
12/18/13 03:52 PM

"all of it comes down to most men insisting on their male perogative to pick and choose what they will and will not do and when they will and will not do it." YES! What IS that?! I like the way one of the articles says that men don't want to do it because it's pure drudgery. Like, "Oh, I don't mind cooking but cleaning is just drudgery, so you can do that, honey."

Honestly just reading through this is making my blood pressure go up. My husband and I generally have a great relationship, but housework is a constant source of stress between us. It seems like such a small thing, but I feel like it's an indicator of respect, or lack thereof. I feel like I've tried everything to get him to help out - yelling, being nice, negotiating, to-do lists, cleaning nights, etc. It's a perpetual intricate dance to coax him into doing things. He was raised in a family where the men did almost nothing, and I was raised in a family where the men did almost nothing, so it's so difficult to a) remind myself that it's not normal and b) get him to understand that it's not normal.

The thing is, I actually have a very high tolerance for grime, but his is still higher. I remember one time asking him, "Now, when you go into that bathroom, do YOU think it's gross? Or does it look fine to you?" And he immediately said, "Oh it's DEFINITELY gross." So he's not totally blind, just lazy.

I've considered throwing in the towel and getting a cleaning service, but then I feel like the underlying issue of respect hasn't been resolved. One thing I read recently (it might have been on Apartment Therapy) is to refer to it not as "housework" but as "home care" to remind yourself that it shouldn't be total drudgery, but a way of treating your house kindly. My husband seemed to like that. I also want us to both sit down and make a list of the things that each of us do on a regular basis, so that he has a fair chance to remind me of the things he does (bills, kitty litter, walking the dog, etc) that I might be forgetting about.

The nice thing is that just when I feel like I'm going to explode, I talk to ANY of my girlfriends and they say the exact same things, so it makes me feel less alone in my struggle.

The Battle of the Sexes Continues: Does It All Come Down to The Dishes?
12/18/13 03:44 PM

#4 - I must say, my husband has gotten us to the point where we are REALLY good about having music on, almost every night. We use Mog or Spotify through our Roku box on the tv (which is hooked up to the stereo), so it almost feels like the same habit as turning the tv on when we come home from work.

Also, I should take my own advice on this more often, but playing records on the turntable feels very homey to me, more like an event than just background music. I keep meaning to have a vinyl party, where we invite people to come over and hang out and either pick records out of our collection or bring their own to listen to.

5 Completely Free Ways to Make Your House a Home
12/4/13 02:03 PM

I always wonder if other people struggle with this too. It feels like all these services - repair people, doctors, meter-readers, auto shops - they all seem to be oblivious to the fact that most people work day jobs. Not to mention the times when I've taken off work to sit and wait for a plumber who just plumb never showed up.

Luckily I only work about 15 minutes from home, and I find that with most companies, even if they give you some ridiculous long window, you can still just ask them to call 15 minutes ahead.

And am I the only one who always acts like these people are doing me some kind of huge favor? If the guy calls from outside my house when I've asked them to give me 15 minutes' notice, why am I the one apologizing profusely and racing to get home, right before I write him a big fat check?

How Do You Get Home Repairs Taken Care Of When You Work 9-5?
10/17/13 12:40 PM

Agree with @katie.currid ! I hate when diy instructions assume you just have a random set of hairpin legs lying around.

That being said this is a pretty rad console.

How To Make a Media Console For $40 HomeMade Modern
4/29/13 12:00 PM

Ugh, STORY OF MY LIFE. I would argue that it's almost *easier* to make friends when you move to a new city because you're in that honeymoon period and you have an excuse for not having friends already. Try making friends after living somewhere for ten years!

My husband and I spend most of our Saturday nights alone and I'm beginning to just resign myself to the fact that we have social leprosy. I work for a company with lots of young cool social people, so it's a great opportunity to make friends, but I just can't seem to seal the deal with anyone. I do get together for weeknight drinks with people once in a while, but it tends to be me doing the inviting, and despite feeling like I'm hitting it off with people, the invite never seems to be reciprocated later. I tend to be socially insecure, so I'm always teetering between "just suck it up and ask them" and the idea that I do have SOME self respect so if they're not inviting me to hang out then ef'em. But unfortunately we've grown distant from some of our good friends because we got tired of being the ones to call them.

I think it's time to just give up and have a baby.

10 Tried & True Tips: How to Make New Friends in a New City
4/4/13 01:38 PM

I completely agree with opening up the drop ceiling, but I gotta say I miss the knotty pine. If this were my house I'd try to find a way to stick with it in a fun way. And to be fair, the updated decor is simply not my style and that's a personal thing, but I kind of agree that although the house is now "beautiful" it's not interesting anymore.

Before & After: A 100-Year-Old Farmhouse Freshens Up The Sweeten
2/27/13 01:51 PM

One thing to note about #5, it's kind of on the small side. I think I thought I'd put a lamp on it or something but honestly it's so tiny I haven't even done anything with it yet, it's just been sitting in the corner all neglected.

On Display: Modern Magazine Racks
1/15/13 04:38 PM

It's like 90% me, and I'm just gonna go ahead and say that it's because I have better taste. If it were up to him everything would be steel, gray and navy blue. In all seriousness though, he doesn't look at blogs or magazines or books, he's just not that into it and doesn't have the reference point to imagine what my ideas will look like when executed (not that I always do either!). But luckily I've made enough good decisions over the years that he trusts me. And of course anything he hates can be undone.

Who Makes Decorating Decisions in Your Home?
11/8/12 12:25 PM

This thing is a pretty great solution to the "which sponge is for the dishes and which for the counter?" dilemma.

5 Low Tech Items for Everyday Problems
9/28/12 05:12 PM

Ugh, this is the story of my life and the reason why after 5 years my house still isn't anywhere near where I want it to be.

One thing that I always try to remind myself is that most things are not permanent, and your home is constantly evolving. Don't assume that rug will have to be in your living room for the next fifteen years, even if you LOVE it you might want to switch it out. I forget that there probably will never be that moment where you're straightening a framed picture and then step back and declare, "Done. FOREVER."

Analysis Paralysis: How To Go From Thinking to Doing
8/22/12 12:17 PM

It looks beautiful, but let's face it, most rooms are easy to lay out without a TV. The damn TV is the death of me, decoratingly speaking.

Living Room Layout Challenge, Revisted: A Before & After Based On Your Advice
8/15/12 12:14 PM