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This topic has come up previously. Some people do not take the hint. Also if you are a part of a couple then you both need to be on the same page when it comes to dealing with people. If one is more of a people-pleaser and conflict-avoidant that doesn't bode well for their partner who may not want to host people or have them use their home as a B&B. Some people may like to entertain, but still want their privacy and their personal spaces may not be as large or accommodating as those people with larger dwellings. I've been in this situation more than I care to think about. More aggressive personalities tend to plead to stay with you or get angry, etc. I'm no longer friends with those, although my husband is with a few of them. Their behaviors were unreasonable and so off-putting that I no longer like to entertain. I've gotten away from it entirely. Nice to see that some respondents are not as judgmental as some of the previous commenters.

The Awkward Files: When (and How) to Say No to Hosting Houseguests
7/31/14 10:30 AM

Very nice. Thank you for the info.

Little House on the TrailerStore Profile
3/2/14 12:22 PM

It isn't weird and I'm of like mind. Had I met someone like you I would have appreciated your time and energy--that to me would have been a demonstration of love and kindness. I suspect we are in the minority or our numbers are diminishing.

Increase Your Happiness: 3 Ways to Be Generous to Someone Else's Home
2/10/14 02:56 PM

Me too. I'm certain that I would have broken down with tears of gratitude. The few people that I've known that have ever offered help do so with strings attached--trying to manipulate, obligate and take advantage. These types of people are the kind who give $10 and then expect you to give $50 or $100 while dictating the time, date, location, etc. Ingratitude and lack of appreciation kills kindness.

Increase Your Happiness: 3 Ways to Be Generous to Someone Else's Home
2/10/14 02:54 PM

I checked out the link and read it and the additional links. Interesting that there are very few comments on here. I used to give quite a bit to others--mostly of my time and energy because I didn't have a lot of money to spare. I recognized that most people did not seem grateful or even thankful--more entitled. Then I also recognized that it never inspired them to behave in a thoughtful or reciprocal way. When I was in dire need, I cannot think of one single person who ever gave (helped), let alone demonstrated reciprocal kindness towards me when I was in need, but I sure do meet a ton of people who feel entitled to tell me how and what I should do for them and others. Not only that but they do not seem to appreciate what I give and how I give. How stupid are they--comparing their life to yours and then trying to use that as a launching pad to try to dictate to me the way I should give and how much. That really quelled my desire to give. It doesn't promote happiness to be treated so disrespectfully and then told I should give more or have others attempt to dictate how I should give and the way that I should give. It's not only obnoxious, but a massive example of sheer arrogance and not only that, but it kills voluntary kindness. Some of the suggestions are nice, but I don't have the time or energy anymore.

Increase Your Happiness: 3 Ways to Be Generous to Someone Else's Home
2/10/14 10:30 AM

Like number 3--the Hemnes dresser is inspired. It's nice that it's on the easier end of the scale.

5 Impressive IKEA Hacks
1/10/14 01:20 PM

Like the compass rose.

Before & After: DIY Compass Rose TableNellie Bellie
12/21/13 12:33 AM

Reading this list I also feel that I did a good job of designing my kitchen with some help from the Home Depot kitchen designers. I gutted the entire kitchen and reworked most of the space which included installing a dishwasher next to the sink and between the gas stove and also swapping the position of the free standing stove and refrigerator and closing a door to the garage and relocating that to the mud room next to the existing pantry. I also installed lower cabinets and made a pass through to the dining room as well as widening the entry.

I also had wood floors installed, since the old one's were covered in layers of lineoleum and damaged and also because I widened the entry and opened the kitchen to the adjoining dining room. I would have liked to have saved those, but they were too damaged.

The only issue I have is that when I did the remodel I had an existing refrigerator that was working fine. I had to eventually replace it and the newer model is larger lengthwise and pushes out farther than the previous one, which cabinetry surrounds. I just live with it, but it's a bit of an irritant. Likewise I do have room for a trashcan under the sink, but would like to install a drawer to pull it out, but cannot due to the pipes. I also don't have a window above the sink, but on the opposite side. I've gotten used to it as that space is really for a small bistro talble and looks out over the garden. It's much nicer to sit there with a cup of coffee and look out at the yard than washing dishes.

I also installed most of the cabinets to the ceiling, however the price point between the size cabinet I got as opposed to having them go all the way to the ceiling was huge. I opted to use crown molding to give the illusion and left only a few cabinets that allowed space on top for variation (I hate dusting) and am not a fan of open cabinets. After all of that I could not afford granite, but now I'm glad that I didn't since we did have some plumbing issues that we had to resolve as well.

Tell Us: What's Your Biggest Kitchen Design Mistake?
12/10/13 02:41 PM

Love this. Great job.

Before and After: Small Kitchen
This Old House

12/8/13 11:42 PM

I've always been lactose intolerant, since I was a baby and it was much more severe as a child. As an adult I became a bit more tolerant, although I could never tolerate milk products to the extent someone could who doesn't have that issue. Then prior to surgery and after I became much more intolerant again and had to avoid it altogether as well as other foods. I have severe allergies and am being treated for them, however my allergist stated that there is a difference between being allergic as opposed to having issues with intolerance. I haven't been tested for other food allergies, but I have always focused on moderation and a veggie and fruit rich diet. Many healthy foods, especially one's that are nutrient dense as well as fiber rich can make people feel bloated, so it's wise to pay attention to how you feel mixing foods.

If people suspect that they have a food allergy I would encourage them to get tested or see an allergist, especially if you enjoy eating certain foods in moderation.

I've also always shopped at farmer's as well as specialty markets, which was a natural activity when I lived in California where I grew up--or maybe it just seemed natural to me given that I like to experiment.

I believe moderation in all things is really the key. I also wouldn't underestimate the role stress or unresolved emotional issues can play in people's lives, especially when it comes to how one feels both physically and emotionally. It's important to practice mindfulness when it comes to how one feels.

8 Things I've Learned About Cooking Without Gluten, Dairy, Nuts and Sugar
12/4/13 12:26 PM

Really love the unique architecture of this place and it lives large despite the modest size which is more my preference and style. I once rented a small space like yours only I didn't have all of the nice architectural elements. The bedroom was on the bottom floor and the rest of the living space was upstairs--the view of the bay from the balcony was breathtaking. I think the property was scrapped given the price of real estate. I love the skylights, but wonder if it ever gets too hot, although in London maybe that isn't much of a problem. It's lovely and thank you for the tour.

Tyler & Lolly's Modern Mews in London House Tour
12/2/13 10:39 AM

I had a very non-traditional and quiet Thanksgiving meal for two and most everything was a first. I've never had quince and finally located a source and I've also never cooked any kind of lamb either. I wanted to cut out carbs as much as possible and eat lighter and healthier and not be cooking all day as it was supposed to be fairly nice outside. So our dinner was Lamp Chops with Poached Quince and Balsamic Pan Sauce, roasted cauliflower and fresh green beans and for dessert--the Fresh Grape Cake with Luscious Lemon Sauce.

It was all quite lovely and we spent sometime at the park enjoying simple pleasures of watching the antics of the fat squirrels and geese at the lake.

How Did Your Thanksgiving Dinner Go? We Want to Hear All About It! Thanksgiving 2013
12/1/13 09:37 PM


I have/had an interest in Russian history as well and like you it wasn't formal study--just a fascination with history. I think mine was more an attempt to understand communism, the Cold War era and previous wars--all of which had a huge impact on my American relatives.

I want to add that I appreciated the tour and especially loved the reading room. I like some of your artwork--so many lovely pictures. I especially liked the framed artwork of the girl in red in the living room above the couch. Also the PB Adeline rug and the leaf print chair are a nice pairing.

The leaf print chair reminds me of a gorgeous painting called Falling Leaves. Portrait of VV Issinskiy--here:

Some of these comments are very harsh and I sincerely hope that you do not take them to heart. Thanks for the lovely tour.

Kate's \"House of Romanov\" House Tour House Tour
11/20/13 02:04 PM

These comments are rather interesting. I can understand the strong visual impact of seeing the Soviet propaganda and especially how it could provoke such an immediate and visceral reaction for some people. However I doubt her intent was to offend anyone and for that reason some of these comments seem misdirected and overly hash.

One the other hand there was a commenter on this site who went by the moniker of Sweet Communist and I would think people would find that far more offensive than how someone chooses to decorate their personal home environment. I also found it extremely offensive that the Communist Party USA endorsed Obama.

Kate's \"House of Romanov\" House Tour House Tour
11/20/13 12:41 PM

Thank you for the round up and that smoked bourbon toddy sounds enticing. I also agree with the last poster--the hot toddies taste so much better when you're flush-faced from activity spent outdoors in the brisk autumn air.

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11/13/13 04:35 PM

Gosh Paul--thank you for your response as that usually doesn't happen and I appreciate it when it does. I know way back when...linseed oil was used for many things including a host of health ailments. I have some antique pieces that I"m not looking to refinish as I don't mind the character, but would like to bring out the luster of the original finish. I'll have to look into it more, but thank you for responding. Once again--beautiful job.

Before & After: This Armoire Gets a Major Makeunder
11/11/13 02:07 PM

What to use and why such as whether to use boiled linseed oil or Tung oil followed by Butcher's wax to restore an antique to its original beauty would be a helpful interesting article. I'm not against painting some wood furniture pieces and visit shops which sell such items. I'm not a hard-lined purist in all things. The owner of the shop told me that when they get these pieces that they are usually not in good shape and that is why they paint them and find them homes and I'm all for that. However I do appreciate antiques and how they restored this lovely piece--the beauty of the wood shines.

Before & After: This Armoire Gets a Major Makeunder
11/11/13 12:48 PM

Sounds really good.

Philly's Hippest Cocktail Recipe: The Broad & Catherine Cocktail The 10-Minute Happy Hour
11/9/13 01:40 PM

I can't seem to find quince where I live and I've asked for it as well.

Fall Recipe: Quince & Vanilla Sorbet Recipes from The Kitchn
11/9/13 01:39 PM

Love the wallpaper in the first photo....sumptuous.

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11/9/13 01:38 PM