Jijuha's Profile

Although I don't find it surprising, I do find it a little sad that society can still examine who benefits more from a marriage. One would think/hope that by this point in civilation we would have evolved past that. But perhaps that is delusional thinking.

I had no interest in marriage. I believed, as many have already commented, that you can have the same level of commitment with a partner without the legally binding document (and still do believe this). Part of my rationale is based on the fact that I am not religious so I never felt the need to confirm my committment to my partner in the eyes of a God. However, the relationship I am in now has changed my mind. I want to marry my partner. It has less to do with legal advantages and more to do with my desire to share how I feel about him in a ceremony (private. I've never really understood big weddings, but don't disapprove of people who do).

If we don't get married, I won't be upset. I can live without marriage, but something about the love we feel for each other makes marriage feel like the right thing for us. I can't really explain it, but I know that neither one of us is thinking about what we will be gaining from the relationship. Thankfully I've found someone that values equality in a relationship (and in life). I feel as though we support each other equally (not only emotionally and physically but also in the day to day activities such as household and financial concerns).

I think, as many have mentioned, that marriage has become something very personal - different for each person/couple. I think it will continue to evolve and hopefully in a positive and equal way for everyone.