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Display Name: lorelski
Member Since: 8/11/10

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@amisdottir, when I began reading your comment, I thought you were offering sensible advice to me, i.e., to "not pay attention to the 10% edges." I thought you were referring to rude remarks, but alas, not so. Frankly, I found most of what you said rather vague, but the word "We" did stand out as the subject of several of your declarative sentences.

Could you please direct me to the definition of "we" as it pertains to this website? Hold on... I'll check... Ah! I see "We" is defined in the AT Comment Policy. Oh. There is also a list of Our four rules for comments:

1. Be honest and fair, yet gracious.
2. No ad hominem attacks or gratuitous meanness.
3. Stay on topic.
4. Add value, don't take it away.

Yes, I can see that in my pre-coffee zeal to respond to what I considered an unnecessarily hurtful remark, I could be accused of violating rules 1, 2 and 3 to some extent. I speak sincerely when I say I shall endeavor to observe these rules.

Now I offer this suggestion to you:

Call a meeting of the cadre that you refer to as "we" and discuss these 4 rules with them—particularly the definitions of the terms "fair," "gracious," "meanness" and "add value."

Then I suggest that "we" discuss amongst yourselves whether or not it adds value to use the words "terrible," "ugh," "hideous" and "Holocaust" in response to someone else's long hours of work.

You could wrap up your "we" meeting by deliberating on the finer points of "fairness," weighing the home improver's sweat equity and courage against the effort it takes for a commenter to type the word "Ugh."

I realize that, even though I have owned up, you have no responsibility to respond, let alone take my advice. But I'm honestly glad that you spurred me toward self-examination and evaluation regarding my own comments, and I hope you do do the same.


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/25/14 01:05 AM

@SherryBinNH, the grammatical-error complaints folks have been making on this post do not refer to those who post comments, the complaints refer to the errors made by the AT professional staff who create the original post, in which case, especially if English isn't their first language, they should have editors/proofreaders look it over before posting.

I repeat that AT staff can be contacted directly by those who wish to correct the original post.


Before & After: Hardwood Floors Reach a New Plane
3/24/14 07:21 PM

At the risk of getting yelled at by others, I'm chiming in to agree with you, clickchick. I'm a writer/editor, and errors by paid writers bug me as well.

A couple of times I've contacted the AT writer/editor *directly* in order to point out an error, and was appreciated. I do think that corrections made by commenters right on the post page creates clutter.

(Also, I have to admit that when furiously writing my own comments, I neglect to proof my own work. But, hey, I'm not getting paid for that.)


Before & After: Hardwood Floors Reach a New Plane
3/24/14 04:59 PM

I love the look of this, the texture is great! (I wouldn't call it "planing," though, as that implies that the surface would be completely smooth.)


Before & After: Hardwood Floors Reach a New Plane
3/24/14 02:11 PM

I swooned when I saw that finished desktop. A great reward for a lot of hard work.


Before & After: Sabrina's From Damaged to Daring Modern Desk Makeover
3/23/14 04:19 PM

Oh, j55fitz, thanks for the laff! Honestly, I'm not laughing in a derisive or snarky or superior way. You really made me giggle. Pardon us, but we are amused!


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/23/14 05:34 AM

Thanks, lggsterpops. I would say more, but don't think there's a need. (Oops. Just said more.)


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/22/14 06:46 PM

@B2. I agree with what you said about What-da's remark. Well put.


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/22/14 02:03 PM

@Lolo'sLola, thanks for chiming in! I always appreciate an opportunity to reply to an response offering advice and exemplification as to how not to belabor one's opinion!

Yes, indeed, it's important to not belabor. Let sleeping dogs lie (feel free to interpret that old chestnut as you will).

However (and thanks, again for this opportunity) what you, I believe, mistook as belaboring were merely a series of responses to invitations such as yours.

Though I doubt you did so, I hope you read my anecdote regarding color choices that I also posted. I wrote it in the spirit of helping anyone who is nervous about choosing colors and the importance of being positive in supporting others' choices. Folks such as you might consider it belaboring, but I hope there are others out there who will gain confidence from it.


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/22/14 02:00 PM

Cyclokitty, thanks for the reinforcement. I also agree about the repainting, should Rebecca tire of the colors. Perhaps, though she should consult LizaJane and abyss before doing so, as they seem to be the arbiters of good taste. ;-)


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/22/14 01:02 PM

Here's a little story about color choices: A few years back, I invested thousands of dollars in having my house painted. I wanted a color that I liked, that was unlike the other common house colors in my conservative neighborhood, and a color that I could live with for a long time. I chose a sort of pistachio green, adding slate gray for the trim, just to tone down the color when in bright sunlight.

The painters had covered one wall in the green and I started to have my doubts. I already had a call in to the contractor to see how much it would cost to start over with another color. This was, after all, a big investment.

Then my new neighbor Mary happened by. I asked her for her opinion on the pistachio color. She said it was great, adding, "but, then I like all sorts of color." I so appreciated her for that. She supported me just when I needed it. We've been fast friends and great neighbors ever since. We have differing opinions and tastes in a lot of areas, including colors, but share the joy of helping others to make big choices and living through the ups and downs of the results.

I still love my house colors and I love my friend Mary!


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/22/14 12:56 PM

Okay, Lpoley. In my OPINION, LizaJane and you are rude. Once again, the internet has allowed people to say someone else's work is "hideous" and "terrible" in pixels, meanwhile hiding beneath the anonymity of electronic communication. Would you actually be so rude to Rebecca if you were face to face? I would would be happy to say in person to both of you that you are being rude to insult someone's choices after they've put a lot of work into a project and taken some (in my opinion, successful) risks.


Before & After: Plain Particleboard Cabinets Get a Cheery Spring Paint Job
3/22/14 12:40 PM

When I saw there were 64 comments, I was prepared for a string of idiotic rants. Instead there was a true conversation. Sure, there was some of the usual adorable crankiness amongst commenters, but questions got answered, I learned a few things, and had fun doing it.

Thanks, commenters!


Before & After: IKEA Hemnes Nightstand Gets an Inventive Upgrade
3/22/14 11:12 AM

It's a gorgeous redo. But how do you determine which is the front now?


Before & After: From Cat Scratcher to Purrfect Chair
3/20/14 02:40 PM

More colored kitchen cabinets... this time from AT: http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/kitchen-cabinets-in-every-colo-143969


Style Makeovers: Dated Kitchens Refreshed Without Renovating Apartment Therapy's Home Remedies
3/20/14 03:42 AM

For those of you who are tired of white cabinets: http://www.thisoldhouse.com/toh/photos/0,,20656615,00.html


Style Makeovers: Dated Kitchens Refreshed Without Renovating Apartment Therapy's Home Remedies
3/20/14 03:38 AM

@segacs, I am bored of the white-paint trend as well. But so many people really seem to love it; I certainly can't fault them for opting for what they love.

Most of the white kitchens that AT showcases are forgettable, as are the pieces of furniture that are painted white. I do wish there were more variety and imagination to these B&As, but then, it does keep me from spending all day on this site.


Style Makeovers: Dated Kitchens Refreshed Without Renovating Apartment Therapy's Home Remedies
3/19/14 09:44 PM

Lauren, thanks for responding to the comments. Your response was strong, open and heartfelt.

Also, congratulations on a great upgrade to your home.


Before & After: A 70s Era Bar Becomes Something Surprising
3/19/14 12:05 PM

Green is appropriate for a piece like this which appears to have frog legs, poised to spring.

Irish spring.


Before & After: St Patrick Himself Would Be Proud of This Sideboard
3/18/14 01:33 PM

I love this. Love the color choices, the red geometric shape around the knobs echoing the same in the flooring. Perfect!


Before & After: A Beat-up Bathroom Cabinet is Saved From the Trash
3/16/14 10:35 AM