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And let me emphasize again - you should make absolutely sure that all of your baby's needs are satisfied (hunger, diaper change, too cold/hot) before doing any kind of sleep training (whether or not that sleep training is cry it out - there are MANY sleep training methods other than cry it out). Sleep Training without Disrupting the Neighbors Good Questions \| Apartment Therapy Ohdeedoh Flag this comment	2/3/10 8:34 PM
What annoys me is the implication that if you don't follow every last tenet of attachment parenting it means that you think your child is an inconvenience, not a human being. I mean, really? Guess what: you can sleep train your baby and it doesn't mean you don't love them any more or less than somebody who follows every last word that drops from the Sears' (or anybody else's) lips. You can also co-sleep and nurse at night and do sleep training! We do all of the above - I totally agree with jessicamt77 that co-sleeping and nursing are great if they work for you and your baby. They worked great for us. I personally believe that sleep training actually improves your loving bond with your baby: a few days of them crying for a few minutes at a time for an hour or two, and for the rest of their childhood both they and their parents can enjoy great sleep and thus bond much more closely. But, you should do whatever you think - on the basis of evidence - works best for you and your baby. If attachment parenting works for you - great! That's wonderful! But don't believe for a second that if you choose not to go that route, it means you love your child any less. Sleep Training without Disrupting the Neighbors Good Questions \| Apartment Therapy Ohdeedoh Flag this comment	2/3/10 8:28 PM
Just want to clear up a few misconceptions spread by the the militant wing of the attachment parenting brigade (I'm not against attachment parenting, just the people who judge parents who don't follow it chapter and verse and treat it like some kind of religion): 1. Sleep training does not imply cry it out. In fact, almost nobody who discusses sleep training recommends cry it out. Ferber certainly doesn't. People who jump from sleep training to cry it out simply haven't read these books, but still spread this absurd propaganda. 2. Sleep training can be done from five months onwards. I have done it. I don't believe it makes me a bad person, or that my kid will somehow end up as a drug addict in later life. In fact, because our baby and her parents both sleep well, we're both happier and healthier as a result. Sleep deprived people do not make good parents. 3. It is vitally important to distinguish between your baby crying because she is hungry and crying for other reasons. Hungry babies should be fed. Feeding them plenty during the day will make them less likely to wake up at night. Pumping breast milk can help increase your supply and ensure your baby is getting enough - it also means you can measure how much milk she's getting, and compare it to the charts, which helps your peace of mind if nothing else. 4. When we did sleep training, we never let our baby cry for more than 3 minutes at a time. Cry for 3 minutes, pick her up for a minute, rinse and repeat. It took a while, but it worked (NB, this is NOT "cry it out". Cry it out is when you leave your baby for long periods without comforting her). 5. We were very careful to keep our neighbors as involved as possible - and we made friends with them during pregnancy. This helped a lot (and they are kind of noisy themselves). Good luck! Sleep Training without Disrupting the Neighbors Good Questions \| Apartment Therapy Ohdeedoh Flag this comment	2/3/10 4:48 PM