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My attitude is that if I want to come to your wedding, I probably want to give you a gift. Because I like you and am happy for you.

Wedding registries are meant to provide guidance to people who share that attitude, not to demand gifts from you. If you feel like a couple is being presumptuous and demanding by providing a convenient list of things they would like, maybe you just don't like them enough to be attending their wedding in the first place?

I also think it seems kind of dowdy and crotchety to complain about what someone else has registered for. If they don't need or want a stand mixer and monogrammed towels but would appreciate help taking the trip of their dreams, who am I to judge if they graciously point me in that direction?

"Lots of Glass Windows"

What other kind of windows would they be?

@CHARLIE26, who said There are many shades of grey between 'don't even look at your phone for hours' and 'posting photos to FB like a rude idiot'

Exactly. When you're perusing Facebook statuses, reading an article, or having a rambling text conversation with someone else -- yes, that's rude.

But sometimes phone use at a meal isn't rude, like when you just need to do something logistical or quick -- let other friends know where you are, tell the babysitter where the extra paper towels are, confirm something for a colleague, or let your worrying mom know that no, you're not dead even though you haven't returned her last call yet.

Or phones can even be social. I've had fun meals when someone has read funny emails, articles, or match.com profiles to the rest of us. Someone might look up funny facts about movies, or show some photos.

Phone use in itself isn't inherently rude, but if someone is consistently rude, then go mature, non-passive-aggressive route suggested by AKAY.

@NYDANA, yep, it's only in the plain tubs. If it has one of those little sidecars of honey or whatever, there's no paper.

@JESS@JPARISDESIGNS, The top of the 2x2 does get some black soot when the flame is near it, but has never appeared to be "catching on fire".

If it's close enough to get soot-stained, then I'm pretty sure it's close enough to be dangerous. If the wood gets heated to a high enough temperature for a long enough period of time, it can still combust regardless of if the flames actually touched it or not.

This version from Design Sponge appears to have a much safer clearance -- 4.5" compared to your 2".

Wow, I've never heard of chick tracts. I'm surprised to hear how common they are to other people.

Even though I love interesting collections and irony, this all just sounds like an awkward decor choice. Wigs might be innocuous on their own, but paired with gas masks and crazy propaganda? Add a collection of guns, and suddenly it's like a scene from Deliverance.

I agree that anything you collect can be curated, but that doesn't mean that it should be on display in a home. What if someone curates headless dolls and antique surgical tools? Shudder.

USERNAME26,
As I said before, while those two subjects are intertwined, each is a separate moral discussion. People can and do talk about them separately -- many vegetarians and vegans do. Some vegetarians or vegans choose their diet because they think that eating meat is fundamentally wrong (meat is murder. period.). Some choose their diet because they think that the modern livestock industry is flawed (maybe they saw a documentary that disturbed them).

Yes, my meat comes from somewhere, so I choose the places that are making strides to better the industry. The industry is not improving because groups like PETA pull outlandish stunts to get attention; the industry is improving because consumers like me are voting with our dollars. Livestock should be well-treated during its life, and when it comes time for it to die, I hope it's quick. The fact that the animal must die is part of the amoral part of eating meat for a natural omnivore. It just is. We just do.

USERNAME26
Most of us just don't think of consuming meat as an ethical issue. It's amoral to us -- and remember that doesn't mean "not moral", it means that it's neither moral nor immoral. To repeat a phrase, it just is.

So you can appeal to logic and make comparisons to murder and bigotry as much as you want, but you won't convince us that way because, if it's a fundamentally amoral issue to me, I think that your ethical arguments simply don't apply.

To clarify what many commenters here are saying: we don't have the burden of convincing anyone that it's ethical if we think it's a choice that's inherently unrelated to ethics. We don't want or need to present an argument for ethical meat-eating. It's amoral. Humans are omnivores. It simply is. We aren't trying to justify ourselves or and we definitely aren't trying to change your mind.

I'm sure that's frustrating to hear since to you consuming meat clearly is an inherently ethical issue. I'm just hoping to illuminate why some people might be starting to get contentious about your reasoning. It's not that they don't respect (or even share) your empathetic feelings toward animals, it's just that for your typical omnivore, eating meat is a fact of nature that's intrinsically divorced from morality.

I don't know, the only people I know who have these are also the ones that are always misplacing their keys, phone, iPods, etc.

I think they think that they'll use them, but they're the types who are always finding their keys in their washing machine or their phone under the couch cushions.

I have a tiny bowl that my extra sets of keys live in, but otherwise all this assorted stuff just stays in my purse. If my phone isn't directly in front of me or on its charger, then I know it's in my purse along with my wallet and my keys.

Since this site is pretty anonymous, it might help to know what illness your friend has. I've had friends be nauseated by chemo, by GERD, and by the ordinary flu, and all of their eating needs have been a bit different.

For example, when you have the flu, dairy might make you yak, but for someone who just had chemo, mac and cheese might be just the ticket -- for them it's more about mild flavors and smells than actually settling the stomach.