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Really great space. Thanks for sharing. One question (or two): what is the room witht he bright yello wall and where is that sideboard/ storage/ bookshelf from?

I have a good friend who is becoming a doula but, like yourself, had been asked by a couple close friends to be their doula/ support person during birth. She found it helpful to have some really solid sit downs with the expecting parents leading up to the birth- sometimes just one big one, or sometimes a couple more depending on all the relationships involved- to discuss hopes, fears, talk about the birth plan, and so forth. She listened to key words that came up fromt he expectant parents, and if there were surprises or concerns that emerged, she would tune into that (offer a suggestion, or take it on as third person so it didn't become a partner v. partner thing) so that everyone could be on the same page when it came down to birthing and that the air was clear before entering into the hospital/ birth center.

In her mind, the mom was #1, father was #2, baby was #3- not that the baby wasn't important, but she felt she was there for the mother and partner primarily whereas the midwives, nurses focused on the baby. And as others have mentioned, she was an advocate for the mom and dad.

As the last person mentioned too, her experience was that the other people there were very happy that she was involved and they all worked together. Go into it with the plan to be a team, and that it won't be adversarial.

is that shelving ikea as well or something else?